Archive for August, 2009

Dreams on a Shelf

Sunday, August 16th, 2009

Sometimes I feel like launching this company is a big race.  The deadlines in publishing are relentless: catalog reservations, catalog copy, artwork, tipsheets, printer specs, sales kit mailings, marketing, publicity, review copies.  And that’s just the business side.  The creative side is somewhat of a race, too.  Books are always perfectly written in a writer’s head.  It’s when the words hit the page that the perfect story looks…well, imperfect.  That’s when the workman like revisions begin to tease out the best possible synergy of words, story and, in the case of children’s books, pictures.


That’s me with the wonderful Children’s Lead Ann at the Barnes and Noble in Norcross, GA.  Ann, Heather and the community resource manager for that store Carla Wilson have been so supportive of our young press and have offered valuable insights and suggestions.  Thank you!

But then there are the moments.  The moments that sneak up on you in the midst of all the hard work that make you realize that dreams are starting to come true.  I had a moment like that last week at Barnes and Noble.  My book.  On a shelf.  In Barnes and Noble.   Some dreams look good on a shelf.

Shadow of the Moon

Sunday, August 16th, 2009
My husband John and I got to experience the first time seeing the book on a BN shelf together and we couldn’t wait to see Ava’s reaction.  She is two and a half and still doesn’t quite understand that she is the person that inspired the first book.  She walks around with the book when she visits and calls it the goo-goo ga-ga book because of a line from the book she loves to repeat.  She just about knows the book by heart now and says it along with us some of the time.  She also thinks it’s fascinating that there are so many of the books laying around and is quite possessive of them.  When she saw a poster in our office that was for a book signing, she ran to and screamed Oh my Gosh!  IT’S THE BABIES!!! 

My muse Ava with the book that launched this press.

I don’t know what exactly I expected when my daughter-in-law and I took her to see the book in Barnes and Noble but I guess I kind of hoped for her to understand it was a big occasion.  We pointed it out to her on the shelf and she said OH MY GOSH!  GOODNIGHT MOON, Grandma!  Goodnight Moon has gone missing in our house for the last few months.  We wanted her to pick up MY book for a picture but she kept talking about how we found GOOD NIGHT MOON.  Oh, well.  I have to admit it was pretty funny.  In the end, I scooped her up and set her on the shelf for the picture that sums it all up.

The Business of Baby

Monday, August 3rd, 2009
Recently I went to a baby/maternity networking event organized by The Bump, a companion website and magazine to the The Knot.  As I walked around and met people it made me realize why this is such wonderful business to be in, even in this challenged economy.

It’s inspiring to work for and with families who have enough faith in the future to bring another child into the world.  There is nothing else I can think of that shows more hope.  It was so interesting to see the different services.  Among them, were baby photographers, a maternity apparel shop, a merchandise rep for the maternity business and even a company that takes 3D pictures in the womb.  I wondered about their personal stories and what led them to their businesses.

That led to thinking about what drives me to write books for babies and young children and the adults who read to them.  And I think the answer is primarily two things:  I love the connection I get reading to children, especially Ava our granddaughter.  It’s electric.  Her little face lights up with wonder and curiosity and excitement.  She loves the undivided attention.  It makes me feel like a small part of her future.  The idea that something I helped create could further that kind of bond between other children and adults…well, it’s exciting and moving.  Reading has been one of my favorite hobbies from a very young age and it has benefited me in so many ways.  I’d like to think our books will help encourage an early interest in reading.

The second part comes from a comment an editor we hired to help us with Dear Baby, Let’s Dance!  which will be released early next year.  She made the point that children’s books can articulate how people feel about being a family and, in some cases, actually teach young parents how to be a family, if they did not have the benefit of growing up in a functional household. I come from a large and loving, sometimes loud and contentious, and always loyal and fun family headed up by our amazing parents Vince and Gloria.  We genuinely like to be together and root for each other. 

That same family sensibility has been passed forward to our kids.  My husband and I feel there is no other accomplishment in our lives that makes us feel more happy and proud.  A little bit of that family dynamic finds its way into pretty much every story I write for children.

Grandma Talks Back

Saturday, August 1st, 2009
(Author’s note: The Bump had a recent article on its website entitled Back Off, Grandma!  It offered advice on how to smooth a rocky relationship with a meddlesome grandma.  It was good advice but I felt compelled to add a little more perspective from “Grandma.”)

Poor Grandma. Poor Mama.  We do get ourselves in big muddles sometimes, don’t we?  It’s all part of being our awesome multi-tasking, all-knowing grownup/little girl dictators of our domains.   If we relinquish too much power our worlds may spin out of control. 

Okay, let’s take a deep breath on both sides and look at each other.  No, don’t run screaming because you see that it’s actually a mirror image! Grandmas, don’t you see your younger selves?  So proud, so happy, so tired, a little bit insecure, maybe a little bit irritated with YOUR mother-in-law?  And Mamas, project yourselves into the future, NOT being in charge and NOT having any control over that precious baby in your arms after making the raising of this child your life’s work.  Kind of scary, right?

We are playing for the same team.  We just need to remember our positions.  Do you know what my daughter-in-law says to me a lot when I ask her if she has any particular instructions when my husband and I babysit?  She says, “You know what you’re doing.  I trust you.”  Isn’t that brilliant?  It makes me want to honor any instructions she and my son do put on a list.  Ironically, it elevates them to EXPERT because they show confidence in themselves and in us.

On the flip side, I try not to say much if it’s not important.  And if I do comment it’s often in the form of a question.  Doctor recommendations DO change over time.  Most of us Grandma’s just want to be acknowledged when we make a comment. 

Mamas, recognize that if this is a competition you are the undisputed winner from the start.  There was a TV show a while back about a family of dinosaurs. The baby dinosaur only knew one name.  MAMA.  When asked who anyone else is, the baby would say NOT THE MAMA.  That about sums it up.  You are the SUN to your baby, the hottest brightest most important planet in his or her universe.  Daddy is the all important Moon.  And God bless you if you have to be the sun and the moon to your child.

As Grandmas, most of us know we had our day being the Sun.  We just want to be a twinkly star in your child’s universe.  As I write this, we are preparing for our 2 ½ year old granddaughter Ava to come for an overnight visit so that Mama and Daddy can have some alone time.  Remember that?  ALONE TIME.  Now isn’t Grandma looking better and better?